Think before you marry-An extract from the Book by swami sukabodhananda
Hi all,
I have found this worth sharing with you all.
A Magnanimous person came to a mental hospital to celebrate his birthday.He distributes sweets among the inmates.
He sees a patient hanging from a ceiling fan and screaming ,”Laila,Laila”
On inquiry,the staff tell him”well ,it is nothing new!He was deeply in love with a girl.She left him and married some one else.Thus,he became mad!”
He moves on and goes to another side of the hospital…he spots another patient hanging from the ceiling fan upside down and shoutinng ,”Laila,Laila”
Who is this? Asks the visitor.’he is the one who married that laila”answers the staff!
This is ofcourse a joke…but is well worth looking into the reasons why the love life and married life of some remain unsatisfactory.
Particularly married life.!
There is a basic reason for this state.It is because we think that marriage would bring us joy!What a wrong assumption!
The lamp is not light.Buildings are not home.Books are not knowledge.
Only when one lives lovingly in a house,it becomes a home.Only when books are read,they provide knowledge.
So is it with married life.Happiness does not come from marrying a like minded boy or girl and being together forever.
If a husband and wife walk in different paths with diverse desires,then married life would not be successful.What is important is how they utilize each other’s strengths for the success of their married life.
Marriage is also like a lamp.only when husband and wife light it together it would bring illumination…that is joy